This blog is for you if you’re stretched, exhausted, and overloaded.
You’re a mum and you’re working, and between your to-list, your workload and the washloads, school emails and birthday parties – you’re struggling to keep your head above water.
I will share easy, doable ways to take care of your health. Things that won’t take hours, but will have an impact.
This is not about getting MORE out of yourself – getting healthy to becoming slimmer, stronger, faster, more productive. This is about taking CARE of yourself. The difference may seem subtle, but it’s everything.
You may have read somewhere that you need to take care of yourself so that you can take care of others, that you can’t pour for an empty cup. On the surface that seems like a great sentiment, but when you really think about it, there’s something dangerous about the idea that you only matter because of what you give to others.
In fact, you need to take care of yourself because YOU matter. Full stop, the end, no justification needed. Not because you’re a mum, an employee, a business owner, a wife, a daughter, a sister or a friend.
The reason I feel so strongly about this is that I didn’t used to take care of myself – because I didn’t think it mattered, or that I mattered. All I could see was what I needed to achieve at work, what I needed to tick off the list at home, and what my children needed from me.
Concepts like rest, relaxation and self-care, were utterly lost on me. I was just trying to get through this next bit, and then this next bit, and perhaps one day in the future I would enjoy my life again.
It was a mentality that lead to burnout, and I don’t want that for anyone else.
This blog is both personal and practical (because I am a relentless problem-solver, I can’t help it!)
I will share my own stories and experiences, but I will also share practical, actionable steps that have worked for me. Things that have saved me in the past, and continue to do so. And I will talk about how to get past all the mindset barriers that paralyse us and stop us from taking action.
This blog will focus on easy, doable ways to make health changes and it will be organised into 5 pillars.
Why the 5 pillars? Because it’s easy to go all in the things you enjoy, but then undermine your health in other areas. I’ve done it so, so many times!
You can spend so many hours cooking and exercising that you end up going to bed late and you’re short on sleep.
Or you can go deep into self-care and self-development, reading all the blogs, attending the webinars, doing the challenges… and neglect the person sitting right next to you, who loves you and is a bedrock in your life.
I’m not the first person to talk about health pillars. You’ll see it everywhere because the concept is sound, it makes intuitive sense. The pillars I have chosen are the ones that make sense to me.
1. Eat real food
2. Move your body
4. Manage stress
5. Nurture connections
An important PS
I am writing this blog for anyone who, right now, is on the path to burnout – or just wants to take better care of themselves. My own experience has been the combined demands of work and motherhood – the way you are pulled in two opposing directions, and the relentlessness of it all. So naturally the personal stories I will share will come from this experience. When I think about my reader, she will always be a working mum because that’s what I know best.
But please don’t think for a moment that I want to exclude anyone. I realise that people who are not parents can be incredibly stretched through work, other caring responsibilities, and just… life. Modern life can be brutal for all of us. I also realise that mothers who don’t work (and of course these mothers work HARD, just without pay!) have a huge set of demands on them too. Regardless of circumstances, if my writing is in any way useful to you, I would LOVE to have you here. But I will continue to focus on working mums, and talking about what I know.